You can use anger to fuel you toward cutting ties with them, going No Contact, and to stand up for yourself, protect and defend yourself in healthy ways. The key to accepting the real anger you feel toward the narcissist isn’t necessarily about confronting them with it, but rather harnessing this anger strategically to detach from them. The narcissist has used gaslighting and projection throughout the relationship to subdue and silence your authentic anger toward them because they know if you got in touch with it, you would be more likely to ground yourself in the reality of the abuse that is occurring and be able to leave them with more confidence. After all, if they didn’t want you to bring up the past, they shouldn’t have repeated it in the first place. That is why they demonize any valid anger you express toward them to depict you as “unstable” or “bitter,” framing it as you “not letting things go” rather than the more accurate perspective of you having legitimate reactions to their inhumane cruelty. The real reason narcissistic and psychopathic individuals are threatened by your anger is because they know what a powerful tool it can be to detach from them. Get in touch with your authentic outrage and anger at being violated in the first place – and with the reality of the abuse. Here are ten ways you can begin to break the trauma bond with a narcissistic or psychopathic individual:ġ. Some of the ways they can be broken can appear counterintuitive and may surprise you. Trauma bonds can be powerful – but as difficult and painful as they may be, they are capable of being broken.

You may even develop a biochemical and psychological addiction to the abuse cycle. If you’re trauma bonded with a manipulative narcissist or a psychopath, you feel inextricably attached to them as a survival mechanism and unable to leave the relationship. By Shahida Arabi Updated January 18, 2023

Signs your are trauma bonded